I love long drives to clients that aren't around the corner. As a momma with 3 very energetic kids, this is my quiet time. I think, I listen to music or podcasts and I relax. On one of these drives I was contemplating the meaning of life, my life more specifically and how I could live more simply but have more. I know that sounds insane but its not really. Is it? Maybe? Lol.
My husband and I had been talking a long time about making some shift. We wanted to live more. We felt pinned down by some of the conventional choices that we had made. Our house, although super cute, costs us a lot of money and time. The choice to stay in a state that is one of the most expensive states in the country because of reason we don't even seem to remember anymore. When we first met and got married our dreams were way different than the typical suburban life we have. Now we felt we were at a turning point.
During a drive on an early Sunday morning, still with snow on the ground, the idea that will change everything came to me. I frantically started pulling paper and a pen out of my tote on the passenger seat because if I initially feared that if I didn't write this idea down I would forget, the placenta brain from child number 3 has yet to subside and as I head deeper into my 40's I don't think it will. I had to remember to tell my husband! The more the idea bounced around I knew I wouldn't need that little note to remind me, it was stuck. I think that client visit I was a little too excited and probably a little silly, luckily they already probably already thought I was crazy so it was OK. The ride home was filled with elaborations on my fantastic idea that I was more than a little proud of myself. As I pulled into my driveway and dashed into the house I couldn't wait to tell my husband. I rounded the corner, into the living room and announced, "I had an idea!" Now, this isn't the first time I announced this to him. In fact he usually braces himself for something crazy when this phrase comes out of my mouth. This time was no different, he looked like he was a little scared and then when I was finished he looked relieved. He said it was a good idea. Halleloo!
Since I discovered minimalism I realized we have way more physical items than we need. I think most people probably do. I felt compelled to get rid of the things I owned that didn't bring value to my life. I was tired of letting these things own me. On the journey through minimalism I found some truly wonderful and inspiring people though books, the internet and on YouTube. I discovered families that travel full-time all over the world like the Knorpp family on their channel Knorpp and South. I found minimalist like Timber Hawkeye and his podcast Buddhist Bootcamp who lives simply in an RV, works part-time to live full-time. The Minimalists, Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemous and their powerful documentary Minimalism and podcast. I also found an entire community of people who live in converted school buses or skoolies, who live all over. Some live stationary and some move around with their jobs or hobbies or some just chase summer. I really was interested in these converted school buses. I was really interested in minimizing more and now everything collides!
Originally my family though the bus idea was a bit crazy. My son was the first to come around after months of me talking about buses. He loved watching "bus videos" with me and dreaming about a bus for our family. My husband came around next but he wasn't really keen on the idea of traveling full time. He thought maybe we could get a bus and drive it down to New Mexico and get some land and just live in it. I was so excited that he was coming around and the conversations were happening. My almost 10 year old daughter was a slow sell but ultimately trusts her momma and thinks snow is awful. The baby gets no vote because she goes where the food goes. My husband I kept talking about buses, in more and more detail until we were talking about OUR bus. Then we started looking at buses on the internet.
There were so many questions about this unconventional way of life. What about school and jobs? What about health insurance? What will our days look like on the road? Do we sell our house? What will our families say? Will this all work? We were excited and confused at the same time. Then our very good friend Paul died all of a sudden and we were awoken to the fact that life is too short to be scared to really live.
The idea that I was so excited to reveal is to travel the country and talk to doulas, midwives, families, childbirth educators and birth workers and write about it here. We want to further document our journey on Instagram, Facebook and YouTube. It is my hope to give a stage to this people who are my birth worker family. I feel that their stories should be heard, I want to hear them. Childbirth in this country is not nearly where it needs to be and if I can do anything to help advocate for a better system I want to do that.
So to break it down, we are traveling the country in our converted school bus named Paulie to meet birth workers, doula families and have adventures as The Nomadic Doula. This may seem crazy but we are fine with that because life is too short to not live it.