It is such an honor to be invited to the birth of a baby. Whether you are the soon to be grandparents, aunt or best friend, to be there for such a special time in the expectant family's life is truly special. With that great honor also comes the responsibility to help keep the birth environment safe, secure and stress-free, one that will allow the pregnant person to labor the way needed and desired. The people around the laboring person can have a huge influence on the labor, the birth and the entire experience. There are so many things you can do to help the family during this time and there are somethings that, even though well intentioned, might discolor the experience for the new parents.
As a doula, I meet with many families looking for support during one of the most important events of their lives. The birth of a child is worthy of preparation, education and professional help. I think everyone deserves a great start on their journey to parenthood and should, at least, take a childbirth education class. Those expectant people who want to be even more prepared, read more, take additional classes and hire doulas. Many people looking for doulas come to the interview or consultation with questions, some of their own and some that they may have read online. A lot of people come to the consultation and don't know what to do, I have had pregnant people say, "How does this work? Do you just tell me all your experience?" There are tons of blogs and articles that list what to ask a doula but I'd like to dive a little deeper than just a list of questions so you may be able to gather your own questions more personalized for you and your family. I have taken a compilation of questions from a bunch of well known sites to give you questions and reasons why that information may be useful to make your decision. Whoever you choose as your doula will not be because these questions alone. Your doula will be a player in one of the most retold stories of your life, the birth of your child! Choose someone who you would remember will joy and not regret. Your intuition can tell you a lot about a person that a list a questions might not be able to reveal.