Jen Silvera is a doula, a nurse and mother to five littles. Jen has the unique perspective that comes with have many different kinds of births and knowing how to advocate for herself and educate herself in a variety of different pregnancy and childbirth situations personally. This only not makes her a stronger and more compassionate birth worker but very exciting to chat with. Jen has always been interested in pregnancy and labor/delivery, and her goal when she was younger was to become an obstetrician but life had other plans in the way of kids, a couple of them. So she went into nursing, with her heart set on working in the Labor & Delivery, Mother/Baby, and NICU departments. Jen had a couple more kids as she was trying to gain her RN, and that's what lead her to researching doulas. She had heard of about doulas as far back as 2009 but had no clue how to pursue it. Eventually after having a doula attend one of her children's births, it solidified her decision to pursue a career as a doula.
Jen trained with Birth Arts International when her youngest daughter was only 3 1/2 months old, and she came to the training with her. She chose them because their philosophy and closeness really spoke to her. Jen also had personal experience with one of their doulas, so she saw firsthand what the education resulted in. Jen has been a doula for 3 years now but before she was a doula she did a lot of other things! As mentioned, Jen is also nurse, and worked in pediatric home-care. She drove for Uber sometimes, shopped for Instacart, worked for a tax company once upon a time, and has also worked as a daycare teacher. Jen is also a super mom since 2007!
Jen is extremely passionate about motherhood and birth work. All her personal experience and professional experience has made her one extremely capable birth worker. Jen wants to encourage families to become knowledgeable, she loves to educate and empower her clients above all else. She wants them to love having a doula of course, but her priority is supporting them in whatever way they need and helping them to realize that they hold the power.
Jen's 5 Questions
Are there any kinds of birth you don't/can't support?
I don't attend planned freebirths only because as a licensed nurse, if something were to happen it can fall on me as the "most trained person in the room", even though I would not be wearing that hat in that moment, so to speak.
Do you see any issues in maternity care in the area you serve?
I currently live in Northern DE and have noticed that maternity care in this state is beyond shitty! I have personally experienced the numerous scare tactics, as well as seen it happen to my clients here, all of which thus far have been minorities. I don't know if that's why, but I'm not saying that it's not why.
Can you help in anyway?
Educate, educate, educate! I teach my clients that they need to ask questions and stand their ground rather than blindly follow what their providers have told them without merit, and I myself have fought with my providers and taught them that I will not be bullied into risky, non-evidence based interventions.
How do you know if you are a good fit with a client?
I know I'm a good fit if the energy is right. I try to always answer all their questions, but also ask some. If the conversation is flowing, I feel that we will work well together.
If a pregnant person saw you at a store with your “I'm A Doula!” shirt on asked you for advice, what would you say if you only had a couple minutes.
I would tell them to know their options, but don't be steadfast in their desires as birth can go any which way at any point. Go with the flow and listen to their body, never be afraid to speak up. You are your baby's advocate.
You can see from all life has brought Jen that she really pulls from her own life experiences to make her a stronger birth worker. Her career as a birth worker and nurse is also a great compliment to motherhood. If you are in the Southern New Jersey, Northern Delaware area and would like to connect with Jen for birth services you can find more information about Jen at Two Hands Birth Services.